tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12869083.post5608018288478272903..comments2009-07-24T14:46:14.693-05:00The Brown Bloggerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05892123380005014339noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12869083.post-53753960941762370712009-07-24T14:46:14.693-05:002009-07-24T14:46:14.693-05:00OMG. I just went through a breakup. I walked away, and it was one of the hardest things I have ever done. He was devestated about leaving. But I found it too devestating to stay. <br /><br />We started a blog together (to tell the truth about relationships instead of all that fluffy stuff people publish) and it turns out it became the chronicle of a breakup!<br /><br />I went thru a short stage of wondering what folks would think. My momma hated him, and I found myself disappointed that she would get some satisfaction at my expense. Thankfully, that didn&#39;t last long... &#39;cause everybody else&#39;s sh*t stinks too, and my life would be a tragedy if I lived it trying to make everybody else happy! Fugg an image...<br /><br />Anyway, I&#39;ll be reading here quite a bit. You are welcome to visit my spot too.<br /><br />Kudos to you for the &quot;self counseling,&quot; which many wouldn&#39;t even try... but I do believe the next step is a counselor to act as a more objective mediator.<br /><br />I wish you the best, no matter which way it goes.<br /><br />The ex-fiance and I are friends. And we may not be facing a permanent thing. But I know this is where I need to be right now (single), and I&#39;m staying right here...Her Sidehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00203876781343228134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12869083.post-76553660334893564832009-07-04T01:36:20.005-05:002009-07-04T01:36:20.005-05:00The first step is counseling, which enables the couple to have a mediator in dealing with their issues.Marriage Counselorhttp://howtosavemymarriage.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12869083.post-29190462871328411392009-06-30T15:39:22.117-05:002009-06-30T15:39:22.117-05:00<b>I can tell her factually that the world ain&#39;t giving one big shit about us.</b><br /><br />Take the time to finish finish the damn quote...The Brown Bloggerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05892123380005014339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12869083.post-12653704872162518242009-06-30T12:23:22.666-05:002009-06-30T12:23:22.666-05:00<b>She thinks that there is something certainly wrong with the world all up in our business...</b>Mrs. Ntimbanjayonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12869083.post-90301976006366392562009-06-30T10:43:30.057-05:002009-06-30T10:43:30.057-05:00I’ve always be amazed in ours and many other cultures, how they make it sound so got damn easy to share your life with another person. They always roll out the nostalgic romance and the Norman Rockwell paintings and ask the question “Isn’t this grand?”<br /><br />I will say that being in a committed relationship of any kind, especially marriage, can be a rewarding experience. No doubt. But let’s face it, a lot of the time it’s more of a controlled crash than it is a smooth three point landing. It’s hard damn work.<br /><br />But I will say to me there is one very big benefit. You find out real quick what’s important to you. And remarkably, you find out what’s important to her too. The trick I suppose is to find out what’s important to both of you.<br /><br />Seems to me like y’all are trying to figure that one out. That’s more than most would do.Terryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03176853633460981781noreply@blogger.com